Can Life Feel Like Vacation?
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Ok, so the title is a bit ridiculous. Who can really vacation every day of the year…only the wealthy, right? Well, maybe not and here’s why.
When you go on a vacation, what are you looking for? What do you desire to experience or maybe…avoid? What do you want to feel while you’re there? Or, when you get back? What are you feeling now that you’re wanting to either escape or get some relief from?
Chances are you’re thinking you want to relax, get away, unplug, disengage from the hectic day-to-day or 9-5. Maybe you’re looking for new experiences, adventure, time away with your loved ones or even solitude.Whatever your reason is, the desire to vacation might be revealing something that you’re not receiving in your daily life.
The challenge then becomes making time for it, affording it and or making it a priority. Life just gets in the way. From kids to job commitments, mortgage payments, pets or other grown-up responsibilities, life happens and planning time for yourself or to spend with that special someone gets lost in the mix.
What if there was a way to bring “vacation” to you? What if you were able to create the same feelings and experiences that you have when you are away – where ever that may be – while you are here, at home, in your daily life?
This isn’t to say that actually planning and getting away for a vacation isn’t necessary or shouldn’t happen, I am merely extending the challenge to take control of your situation and create an atmosphere, right now, that evokes the exact feelings you are looking to feel while you are away.
So here are a few questions to get your wheels spinning and create some momentum that can ultimately provide instant relief and gratification.
1) What feelings come to mind when you think about how your life is going right now?
Are you stressed out with work? Exhausted, run down or lacking drive and motivation? How about your relationships? Business and personal?
2) What do you hope to feel while on vacation?
Relaxed, rejuvenated, excited, invigorated, happy, calm, satisfied…. etc.
3) How do you want to feel when you return?
Refocused, energized, motivated, empowered, happy, excited, refreshed… etc.
Take a few minutes and really think about each of the questions above. Write down a few answers to each one and then read over them. Add to it if necessary or scratch off those that don’t seem to fit. Settle on a few solid answers and for each of the feelings you have listed I want you to write them either on a separate piece of paper or sectioned off so that you can see each one clearly and you have plenty of room to write below them.
From there think about what activities, actions, people, places (even foods or music) cause you to feel these feelings. (see my example below). You might even recall a few times when a feeling was really strong, write down what you were doing when you felt it. For each feeling you should have at least 5-7 different ways you can experience it.
Lastly, take inventory of the lists you’ve created for each feeling and now re-write your list so that you have both the feelings you want to experience with the ways that you experience them all together and keep it with you. Look at your schedule, plan out ways to incorporate activities or moments in your day where you feel each of these feelings and make it a priority to feel each of them on a daily basis.
Here’s an example:
* Invigorated – I feel invigorated during a REV class*link, when I’ve met a deadline or finished earlier than expected on a big project, looking out of my office window on the 11th floor, just talking about the future, planning a new adventure with my husband.
* Relaxed – I feel relaxed during a massage, reading a book on the patio in the evening, cuddled up on the couch with my husband, at the pool on a Saturday afternoon with friends and whenever I get some quiet time to myself.
* Inspired – I feel inspired after a stimulating conversation with a passionate colleague, reading “The Fire Starter Sessions” by Danielle La Porte, in nature (either at the beach or in a park), after finding a new and interesting novel, when a creative friend calls for help with a project.
And so on….
The amazing thing about this exercise is it instantly brings what you desire in a vacation to reality. It makes what you long to have accessible and even better…immediately available.
Believe me when I say, vacations are extremely important and necessary. However, recognizing that you have more control over your immediate surroundings and how you want to feel is powerful in itself.
It’s like Seth Godin stated, “Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, how about setting up a life that you don’t have to escape from.”
Take action and create what you want right now. Life is too short to spend stressed out, frustrated and waiting until the next best moment.
DEFINE’s Emotional Wellness Expert, Jessica Pass, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Instructor at DEFINE body&mind. She has a private practice in Houston, Texas, specializing with children, adolescents, individuals, couples and parents. Jessica’s approach incorporates mind-body integration, education and practical strategies to improve emotional wellness, emphasizing all aspects of who we are to live fully and thrive in our relationships.
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